Rebecca Sue

A New Memoir from New York Times Bestselling Author Kathleen Norris

"My sister Rebecca had perinatal hypoxia, but I knew and loved her as my little sister long before I heard that term applied to her. As Becky became a toddler our parents noted that her development was not like that of my older brother and myself. But that mattered less to all of us than the fact that we enjoyed the company of a lively little person, who in an atmosphere of familial love and support was developing a strong personality."

Discover the untold story behind one of Kathleen Norris's deeply personal relationships in Rebecca Sue. Best known for her insightful and poignant reflections on faith and life, Norris steps into uncharted territory by sharing an intimate memoir exploring the life of her younger sister Becky. Born with perinatal hypoxia, Becky's life was shaped by physical and mental disabilities, yet her spirit and resilience illuminate the hidden power of faith, family, and love.

With Norris's signature blend of poetic prose, spiritual reflection, and heartfelt storytelling, Rebecca Sue invites readers into a profoundly moving narrative. This isn't just a memoir; it's a tender tribute to Becky's intelligence, her struggles, and her extraordinary ability to inspire those around her. Through Becky, Norris examines the strength of familial bonds, the complexity of emotional and practical caregiving, and the myriad ways God works in our lives—seen and unseen.

Kathleen Norris, a five-time New York Times bestselling author, weaves her family's story with the depth and nuance her fans have come to cherish. Rebecca Sue explores the resilience of the human spirit, weaving a powerful story of perseverance, hope, and the unexpected ways people find strength during life's toughest moments.

This book is a heartfelt exploration of relationships, resilience, and faith—perfect for anyone drawn to spiritual growth, human connection, or those who belong to or support the disability community.

What You'll Find Inside



- Beautiful Storytelling: A heartfelt narrative of Becky's life, capturing the joys and challenges of navigating disability with faith and grace.

- Spiritual Reflections: Kathleen Norris draws profound insights on how God's hidden power is revealed through family, caregiving, and love.

- A Rare Perspective: Learn from Becky's unwavering courage and Kathleen's enduring reflections on sisterhood, faith, and resilience.

- Tasting God's Grace: Read stories reflecting grace in everyday life challenges and triumphs.

Kathleen Norris writes this memoir with the same care and introspection that has defined her career, sharing her own stories and reflections. Her compassion and honesty shine through, encouraging readers to consider their own relationships and faith.

Why Read Rebecca Sue?

This book offers a heartfelt journey through family relationships and personal growth. Whether you're a fan of Kathleen Norris, a memoir enthusiast, or someone exploring the intersection of disability and faith, Rebecca Sue will captivate your heart and soul.

Discover how faith, family, and love can transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection. Find inspiration in Becky's remarkable resilience and Kathleen's stirring reflections, and experience a richer understanding of what it means to live a life shaped by faith.

Order your copy of Rebecca Sue today and step into a profoundly moving story that will linger with you long after you turn the final page.



Kathleen Norris is the award-winning poet, writer, and author of the New York Times bestselling books The Cloister Walk, Acedia & Me: A Marriage, Monks, and a Writer's Life, Dakota: A Spiritual Geography, Amazing Grace: A Vocabulary of Faith, The Virgin of Bennington, and several volumes of poetry. Exploring the spiritual life, her work is at once intimate and historical, rich in poetry and meditations, brimming with exasperation and reverence, deeply grounded in both nature and spirit, sometimes funny, and often provocative.

Widowed in 2003, Kathleen Norris now divides her time between South Dakota and Honolulu, Hawaii, where she is a member of an Episcopal church. She travels to the mainland regularly to speak to students, medical professionals, social workers, and chaplains at colleges and universities, as well as churches and teaching hospitals. For many years she was the poetry editor of Spirituality & Health magazine. She serves as an editorial advisor for the monthly Give Us This Day from Liturgical Press, and writes for a weekly e-newsletter, Soul Telegram: Movies & Meaning with her friend Irish storyteller Gareth Higgins.



Note to the Reader



Becky's Questions

Part 1: "Will I Always Be Slow?"



The Rough-and-Tumble of Family Life



A Good Balance



To Hawaii, 1959



Defensive Wounds



"You Can't Hit Me, I'm Retarded!"



"Monster Mash"



The Beach Boys



Virginia Beach: A Mellaril Haze



"It's All Happening in Love With Me"

Part 2: "How Do You Know When You're in Love?"



"I Am in Deep Love"

Tora, Tora, Tora



"I Know How You Feel About It"



"I Try to Be Myself and Not Anybody Else"



"I Am a Slow Learn"



Assessment



"I Am Trying to Play It Cool"



"They Try to Get Me Drunk"



The Mary of Egypt Connection



"I Am Having Problems Seeing Eye to Eye With Men"



"It Seems like I Don't Like the Men Who Like Me"

Part 3: "What Can I Do to Be Good Enough to Develop Skills?"



"A Big Poodle in the Dog House"



"I Try to Change for a New Me"



The Finder of Lost Things



"I Want to Change but Am Afraid of Change"



"I Feel Lost Again"



Not Stoicism, but Stability



"All My Dreams Get Sunk"

Part 4: "What Does 'Being Dependent' Mean?"



"I Know God Has a Plan for Me"



"If I Stay with the Family I'll Be a Failure"



Mrs. R.



A Haunting



"Becky Says You're Getting a Divorce"



"Please Don't Ask Me about My Group Home"



"I Have a Hard Time Loving Myself"



"I Can Only Change Me"



"I Passed the Drunk Test!"

Part 5: "What Will Happen to Me If You, Dad, and Mom Get Sick?"



"I Feel Hurt Because You Wrote a Book and I Didn't"



"You Should Write a Book about Me"



The Writer in the Family

Ho'omalimali



"I Was Praying for That"



"I Don't Want Mom or Dad to Die"



"I'm Acting like a Child, and I Don't Know Why"



Misfits



"I Guess This is What It Means to Be Bipolar"



"I'll Be Fine. I Have a Positive Attitude"



"I Think You're Right"

Part 6: "It's Important to Be the Right Kind of Person"



"A Hugging Church"



"I Know Now People Live and Die"



"I Need to Spread My Wings"



"She Appears Older than Her Stated Age"



"No One Loves You; You Should Just Die"



Vows



"A Swan, and Not the Ugly Duckling"



Phone Hugs



"Manicky"



"I Feel OK about Her Going"



"I Tell Them All About It"



Holy Week

Part 7: "Here We Go Again"



"She's a Mother Hen and I'm Fed Up with Her"



"I Wish I Could Be Like Him"



What I Owe to Joseph Gordon-Levitt



"A Freak in This World"



"I Like It Here"



"Here We Go Again"



"The Divine Presence Is Everywhere"



Daisy



The Color Artist



"Thank You for Telling Me"

Part 8: "I Bet I Can Have Dessert Now"



"I'm Afraid That I'll Die Alone"



"I Bet I Can Have Dessert Now"



"Does She Have Faith?"



Rebecca Sue Norris: Medications as of April 2013



"We Learn a Lot About Love"



"I Have the Cutest Doctor, and He Surfs!"



Communion



"I Hate My Symptoms"



To God's Kingdom



"She Was Still Able to Be Herself"



Tulips



"I Am the Butterfly, Spread the Wings"



"Tabitha, Get Up"



The Perfect Thing to Say



Like a Child at Home



"It Was like She Took All the Light With Her"



Becky's Birds



The Gospel According to Rebecca



"And I Will Raise Them Up"

Iron Man 3



Acknowledgments



"Rebecca Sue is a profoundly moving tribute to the resilience of family and the beauty of unguarded love. Kathleen Norris takes us into the heart of her sister Rebecca's world with sensitivity, courage, and insight, offering a deeply human story that resonates with both struggle and grace. This book is a remarkable testament to the sacred bonds that sustain us through life's most profound challenges."



"Kathleen Norris has always written with embodied, honest, human faith. In Rebecca Sue, Norris brings her insight into the human condition to her relationship with her disabled younger sister. The result is an invitation for all readers to discover their own humanity and to glimpse the hidden hand of God in all things."



"Kathleen Norris turns the story of her sister Becky into one of the most memorable eulogies you'll ever hear—loving, honest, sacred. With vulnerability, humor, and the depth of spiritual insight we've come to expect from Norris, this account of her sister's life made me want to read her books all over again."



"Kathleen Norris doesn't shy away from the unresolved histories and social norms that shaped her life with a disabled sibling or from the mix of ordinary difficulties, earned insight, and unexpected grace that arise from conditions of human needfulness. Readers will find some of their own stories echoed here, as Norris plainly and elegantly recounts, holds open, and reconsiders her own."