- 12th Annual Outreach Resource of the Year Recommendation (Leadership)

Pastors and church leaders often fall into the trap of people-pleasing. Charles Stone?s research on thousands of pastors and ministryleaders demonstrates the dangers of approval-motivated leadership. Bringing together biblical insights and neuroscience findings, Stone shows why we fall into people-pleasing patterns and what we can do to overcome these tendencies. With practical tools for individuals and teams, Stone offers concrete resources to help you and your leadership minimize people-pleasing and have more effective ministry.



Charles Stone is lead pastor at West Park Church in London, Ontario, and founder of StoneWell Ministries, where he coaches pastors and church leaders, applying neuroscience insight to spiritual leadership. He is the author of 5 Ministry Killers and How to Defeat Them, and he can be found online at charlesstone.com.



Foreward by Ed Stetzer

Acknowledgments

Introduction: My Personal Confession



Section I: The Problem of People-Pleasing in the Church Today

Chapter 1: Has the People-Pleaser Virus Infected Your Leadership?

Chapter 2: What Makes Leaders Sick?

Chapter 3: The Key to Health: A Strong Leadership Immune System



Section II: The Solution

Chapter 4: The Rearview Mirror Look: Probe Your Past

Chapter 5: The Search Within: Revisit Your Values

Chapter 6: When Relationships Get Knotted Up: Expose Your Triangles

Chapter 7: What?s Missing: Search for Your Gaps

Chapter 8: Nitpickers and Stone Throwers: Engage Your Critics

Chapter 9: Self-Care: Nurture Your Soul through Mindfulness

Chapter 10: Are Your Reactions Showing?: Tame Your Reactivity

Chapter 11: The Placebo Pastor



Section III: The Leader?s Toolbox

Appendix A: The Seven-Day Personal DevelopmentPlan

Appendix B: The Eight-Week Team Development Plan

Appendix C: Research Methodology



Notes

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